tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858139604878815285.post1653795574574514500..comments2023-06-23T15:29:00.212+05:30Comments on Just Like That: Love MarriageBirdiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17999682096531855978noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858139604878815285.post-86401282085999856592009-04-18T01:35:00.000+05:302009-04-18T01:35:00.000+05:30I meant the name of the commentator...Its anonymou...I meant the name of the commentator...Its anonymous..Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17999682096531855978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858139604878815285.post-55458979731176463032009-04-13T14:16:00.000+05:302009-04-13T14:16:00.000+05:30It does have a signature while signing off, the la...It does have a signature while signing off, the last line, guess someone didnt read it through :(<BR/><BR/>Dr OrangeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858139604878815285.post-57766308794140656682009-04-13T09:28:00.000+05:302009-04-13T09:28:00.000+05:30Hmmm.. nice thoughts. Thanks for giving so much ti...Hmmm.. nice thoughts. Thanks for giving so much time to comment. The comment is longer than the post. :) Just wondering why d\was it posted as anonymous? Think the blogger does not want to be related to topics like love in spite of having such wonderful thoughts about it.. strange...Birdiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17999682096531855978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7858139604878815285.post-48069647840480922682009-04-12T07:26:00.000+05:302009-04-12T07:26:00.000+05:30Great Dig I'd sayFirst love is special, it indeed ...Great Dig I'd say<BR/><BR/>First love is special, it indeed is, its evident by all of us, we all go through this and a major chunk walks out heartbroken, lucky ones are those who make up ends meet up.<BR/><BR/>Falling in love is a rare, wonderful, miraculous state of being for any individual, if true. I'd stress again on if true.<BR/><BR/>General panoramic view of people about being in love is just “being together” or “sharing thoughts/feelings/happiness etc”<BR/><BR/>I think being in love, or rather your first love grows beyond all this mentioned above, its just not about liking someone for what you like them for, its about loving them for the way they are.<BR/><BR/>If I had to be like/love someone after they make changes in their individuality or personality, it would be business, as there are terms and conditions involved, it aint no business.<BR/><BR/>We generally fail in opening ourselves to various verticals of love, and are stuck within a stereotypical sphere; We just want to be loved, but, we fail to explore ourselves, and the enhancements that develop within ourselves when in Love.<BR/><BR/>Being in love is beautiful, and I'd say it’s chosen one who gets to fall in love with the person they really love <BR/><BR/>Somehow we forget loving ourselves for what we are, we forget opening up, and I mean opening up to ourselves.<BR/><BR/>With busy schedules, office timeliness and various un-mentioned commitments, we really run short on time to sit down, all alone, or with the person you love, to analyze, realize and visualize life.<BR/><BR/>We are busy, and I'd say BUSY pleasing other people which is lame to a certain extent, If we are in love with someone, its majorly for the reason that we want to be “Loved " and this feeling is more dominant than to love someone else.<BR/><BR/>We at times, or I'd say majority of the times fall in vicious circle of getting hurt ensuring that we are being or in love, I see people who'd love their partners, but wouldn't trust them, I understand that its not the easiest thing to do, but for any relationship, and I mean any relationship to go ahead, you need is trust, and without trust its impossible to provide a substantial foundation to any relationship, I haven't seen god, nor have my parents, But... I believe in god, is reason being that I ' trust ' my parents, and they wouldn't lie to me, that's my belief.<BR/><BR/>Now, if you see, I have a strong relationship with God, only and sole reason being my trust in my parents.<BR/><BR/>We fail, and we fail miserably in attempt of making someone fall in love with ourselves, with consistent amount of insight, ingenuity, and enough restraint, you may truly make someone fall in love with you, but only and only if he or she doing so has the potential for loving you to begin with.<BR/><BR/>There is lot of science involved behind falling in love with someone, Yes, there are reasons and statistics behind this<BR/><BR/>Everyday, in our lives, as we drive to offices, walk through the shopping mall, or while sipping coffee, we first meet someone, or even just see someone at a distance to whom we feel attracted, the attraction doesn't necessarily go both ways, we operate with a mind set that is the result of personal experiences within the framework of our own life, we think, we are the man or woman of someone's dreams, but unless this individual is able to also perceive this, that dream never comes into realization. <BR/><BR/>We need to bring and nurture out those qualities that would make us the " person of someone's dream " but how ?<BR/><BR/>How would you find that common ground on which to build a strong, meaningful relationship in the future that wont leave you hurt, or in tears when its all over.<BR/><BR/>To start with a relationships, then into a good relationships take time to develop and grow, its not a one day business, we all have good mind, a caring heart, but how often is that we bring it into act.<BR/><BR/>More importantly is to make someone feel loved, rather than love, and unfelt.<BR/><BR/>We need to be brave, walk up to the person and tell them how much you love them, and how much they matter to you rather than asking " Do you love me " ? Such questions are nothing, but a challenge to your partners feelings towards you<BR/><BR/>We need to give more attentions to smaller details of your relationship, I dont insist to be on micro level, but if you'd wonder, when we walk down to a coffee shop, we know what we are looking for, medium or large, light or dark in appearance, low or high in caffeine, whether decaffed or not, low-fat or non-fat milk, we have an eye for every small detail, but why not in a relationship.<BR/><BR/>Everything that exists in this world, dies, hard to suggest, but that is the fact, everything has death rate, even a relationship does, it all depends upon us, how much effort you kick in together to keep a relationship alive, small gestures of appreciation, token of love, and comforting your partner would do wonders, and if there is something that wont die is, the faith, the belief, that both of you would be together may come hell or high water.<BR/><BR/>I feel sad, and sorry for any instance that I'd hear about people split from a relationship, probably they dont know what they are doing, and how badly they'd miss it later on, its always better to realize value and worth of a relationship while you are in it, once you step out, its painful. <BR/><BR/>Signing off<BR/><BR/>Dr OrangeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com